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I decided to curate these e-letters to meet you where you are, in your inbox. I see these letters being part storytelling, part interesting things I have stumbled upon that I want to share, all revolving around a theme. Themes are great; they give structure and weight to whatever idea or message you are trying to convey with your writing. I hope you find these e-letters fun, insightful, and/or thought-provoking and ultimately that you enjoy receiving them.  

>> We all are a collection of our experiences

  • Last week I was made aware of a Twitter thread by a writer from the New Yorker named Helen Rosner. I commiserated with this stranger because I too find it insane that I am now 40 years old. In honor of her recent birthday, she tweeted out a list of wisdom gained from her past experiences, including “the best way to make non-work friends as a childless adult is to get a dog and become a regular at a dog park” (okay, but I have been seriously thinking of getting a doodle mix and becoming a regular at Fetch dog park, a place I initially mistook as a block party), “be the friend who makes a decisive call when everyone else is waffling about what to eat” (I will now follow this guidance), and “if you’re stuck in a frustration loop with someone, change the medium: call if you mostly text, email if you mostly call, etc” (genius). I am adding these tidbits: “you have to sometimes let people down to be happy” and “you never look good trying to make someone else look bad”. What would you add?
     
  • I read a book last year that to me was very insightful about how our experience with love in all forms shapes our present and informs our future: In Five Years by Rebecca Serle. I saw this book on many IG accounts and had to read it when I saw the premise – a workaholic lawyer with her life all planned out down to the “perfect” significant other. She has a “dream” of a seemingly loving moment 5 years in the future with a man she does not recognize, and as she progresses through her life, she realizes she is slowly moving towards that moment. This “dream”, which was more like a premonition “experience” forces her to she really reflect on her current life and what would make her happy. It’s a remarkable story, and I do recommend taking a read; just don’t mistake this as a traditional love story for the main character or you will be disappointed.
     
  • I have had friends tease me about all the sad films I enjoy and the sad songs I listen to. I often reply that it is cathartic. Now I feel somewhat validated on this – I came across some discussion on why listening to sad music helps on Instagram. There is an argument for how it “triggers nostalgic memories,” “makes us reflect on our own experiences and feel comforted” and “helps us understand and put words to our feelings.” Do you agree?
     
  • One day I came across this recipe for a Biscoff cheesecake that I will definitely make one day; I just need an excuse (anyone’s birthday coming up?). I feel like I can taste the photo, that’s how good it looks. It reminded me that the first thing I ever baked was a cheesecake; my late aunt taught me when I was like 7 years old using the recipe on the Philly Cream Cheese package. We made our own graham cracker crust and everything. It was magical. It was because of that I think I have always loved to bake (though I hate to cook!).

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